Sex Positions for the Shower

How does one make a steamy shower even hotter? With shower sex, of course. Along with being an important component of a man's penis care regimen, shower time can be a prime opportunity to spice up a couple's sex life. Couples need to take certain safety precautions when engaging in this racy activity - detachable handles, a shower mat and silicone-based lubricant are important to have on hand, for example. Along with these considerations, it behooves a man to have some shower sex positions lined up in his mind so that he and his partner can make full use of this unique environment. Below are 6 positions that are great for shower playtime.

1) Outer Play

This first position actually doesn't involve penetration, but serves as a great foreplay move. If the partner is cool with it, the man can suds up her buttocks and pump his manhood in between the cheeks while using his hand - or, better, a detachable shower head - to stimulate her clitoris. Not all partners are comfortable with butt stuff, so check in with her first.

2) Standing Doggie

The female partner can bend over and support herself with her hands on the rim of the tub while the man enters from behind. If there is a significant height difference, the woman may need a stool. If a stool is used, both partners need to ensure that it is sturdy and secure. The man can hold the woman steady at the hips, and she can either spread her legs (if not using a stool) or keep her thighs squeezed tightly together for an ultra-deep feel. This position is great for woman who like deep penetration, and for men who like going deep.

3) Wall-Press

In this position, the woman's front side is facing the wall and her arms are stretched up and against the wall. The man enters from behind and can press the woman's hands into the wall if both partners like this element of control. He can also place his hands on her hips for greater thrust control.

4) Man Chair

A man can make himself a very enjoyable chair for his partner by sitting down and stretching his legs out (bending at the knees if he's tall). The woman can then face him, sit on his lap and go for a ride. The hot water will gently massage her back as she rocks back and forth, making this position even more pleasurable.

5) Leg Lift

The female partner can bend her leg and place her foot on the edge of the tub while the man stands in front of her and enters. Again, a stool may be needed if a drastic height difference is in play. The woman should have something secure to hold onto, such as a stable shower rod, so that she can maintain balance.

6) Leg Lift (Assisted)

In this position, the woman presses her back against a wall and the man stands in front of her; she lifts her bent leg, and he places the back of her knee over the crook of his elbow to hold her leg up.

Note: Some people who are not comfortable with anal play are down for it in the shower, but not everyone. A man should never assume that the butt is open territory, whether for manual, mouth or penetrative play. Couples should discuss boundaries before trying anything new.

Sex Tips for Chubby Lovers

Passionate lovers come in all shapes and sizes, but sometimes men of a larger frame may be in need of a few minor sex tips in order to make their sexual escapades a bit more satisfying. Naturally, proper penis health is important for chubby lotharios, just as it is for men of any size and weight. Beyond that, however, there are a few things that the man with something extra needs to remember.

With that in mind, the ample man might want to consider the following.

- The penis may appear a bit smaller. In terms of function and quality, it's absolutely true that penis size is far overrated; unless a man possesses a member that is truly a micropenis, most men have a tool that is of sufficient size to provide great satisfaction to both him and his partners. However, it is true that penis size often has a psychological effect on both the owner of the tool and the recipient of its largesse. It's also true that in some overweight men, the penis appears smaller due to excess poundage that hides a small portion of the shaft where it meets the body. If a man is in this situation and is bothered by the fact that his organ is not of the length he desires, he may wish to try shaving his crotch. Denuding the groin of hair often has the effect of making the member appear larger, even though its true size remains unchanged.

- The man should work on upper body strength. If a man and his partner tend to favor sex positions in which the man is on top, the man needs to make sure he can support his weight; the partner will be much more comfortable if s/he does not have to bear too much pressure from above. Although a gym has several machines that can work on upper body strength, there are plenty of simple at-home exercises, such as push-ups, that a man can employ instead.

- Think about pillows. The missionary position may also be more easily accomplished if a pillow (or two) is added beneath the partner's buttocks. This will raise the vagina and create an angle at which ample lovers may achieve penetration more easily.

- Consider positions. Sex tips often come down to simply, "What is the best position for this situation?" For many larger men, placing the woman on top is a better option. This may become an issue when the male's stomach droops down a bit too far into the crotch, covering part of the tool. In these cases, again, a pillow may be a good idea. By raising his own crotch higher, the excess poundage around the middle moves back, allowing greater ease of access to the rod. Doggie style is also a very popular position for plus size men, and there are numerous others to consider (e.g., the flying V, which is basically the missionary position but with the woman's legs lifted up and her feet or calves placed on the man's shoulders).

The key for large lovers is to take into consideration one's weight, the manner in which it is positioned on the body, one's strength and one's mobility and to seek out positions that work best in different circumstances.

What Things Should Men Know?

Most men learn about sex from their parents. They get the lowdown on the so-called birds and bees when they're in adolescence, and sometimes, those sex conversations are uncomfortable. Kids don't like to hear about things like this from adults, and that means many boys simply pretend to listen while their parents talk. In addition, parents don't know everything. As a result, it's not that unusual for men to know very little about sex and how it works. And sometimes, that ignorance leads to injuries that require intense penis care.

This quiz might help. Each statement is either true or false, and the answers are listed below. Studying the information here might give men the bits of knowledge they need in order to stay safe during sex.

The Statements

1) "If I pull out during sex, I can make sure my female partner won't get pregnant."

2) "There's no need for lubricant. My female partner's body makes all the slick stuff we need for sex."

3) "Some types of sexually transmitted diseases are hard to spot, so it's possible I could have sex with someone who is infected but who looks perfectly healthy."

4) "The longer my sex sessions go, the better it is for my body."

The Answers

1) False. While the majority of sperm cells are located in the fluid a man produces during the peak of pleasure, the little droplets of fluid that lubricate his penis for sex might also contain a few errant sperm cells. In addition, ejaculation can happen really quickly, so it's possible that a man might think he's pulled out in time when he's really released a few swimmers before he left the area.

2) Mostly false. While it's true that a female partner's body can produce lubrication for intimate episodes, many things can go wrong. She might:

- Be dehydrated, so her body can't produce the fluids required

- Feel less than aroused, so her lubrication process hasn't even started

- Have dryness caused by menopause, so she's not producing many fluids at all

- Be using medications that impact her ability to produce lubricants

- Begin to dry up partway through the action

Since a woman's ability to keep things smooth can be so variable, it's best for men to keep lubricants on hand.

3) True. Some types of sexually transmitted diseases cause overt symptoms that are hard to ignore and that won't go away without treatment. But others can produce a ton of symptoms for awhile, and then produce no symptoms later. Others can hide in a person's body, never producing symptoms that a guy might spot during sex.

That's why a visual check of a partner is a terrible way to screen for sexually transmitted diseases. It's far too easy to overlook problems that could have a big impact on a man's overall health.

4) Mostly false. Long, tantric sex sessions can sometimes feel wonderful. A man might emerge from these sweaty nights feeling very close to his partner, and he might feel absolutely at peace with his body and mind due to the chemicals released during sex.

But long sessions sometimes come with some complications that can be terrible for the penis. A guy might find that his partner's body grows drier as the sex goes on, for example, or he might start to feel pain in his groin due to the endless friction of sex.

In general, it's best for men to listen to their bodies while engaged in sex. Any little twinge of pain should make the sex stop.